The Counselor/Student Relationship

Students are informed that if they would like to meet with me they can request a meeting through their parents or teacher, or they may ask me to meet with them. If I meet with a student once I usually inform the parent of this meeting only if it is an issue we need your assistance with or if a referral needs to be made. If I am going to meet with a student for a few times (maximum of 4-5) I will call you for consent to work with your child. I also ask for permission to include any child in a group.

An important part of the counselor and student relationship is trust. One of the ways counselors build a trusting relationship with students is through confidentiality. I talk to students at the beginning of the year about keeping information confidential. I share with students that I will try to keep the information they share with me confidential but there are times when I will need to share with other adults what the student has shared with me. I tell the students I will break confidentiality if they are going to hurt themselves or someone else, if someone is hurting them, if they tell me someone else is being hurt, or we decide it is important for us to share the information with another adult. I do share with students that problem solving is a collaborative effort and there will be times we will want to include their parents or teachers in our work.

There are many things to do in the counselor's office:

• Talk about student concerns.

• Play games that help students learn about themselves and other people.

• Work in groups with other students.

• Read a book with the counselor.

• Calm down and plan ways to solve a problem.

• Write or draw.